What I Want in a Man

OK, along with each person having their own opinion on what makes a guy a "hunk" we each also have our own opinion on what we want in a man. Now, I freely admit that I never outgrew fairy tales and Prince Charming. My ideas about what I want in a man may be unrealistic - and I recognize that and am ready to compromise.

So, here's what I want.

I want a man who knows that I can be as strong and capable as SuperWoman, but who wants to treat me as if I am as fragile and delicate as spun glass.

I want a man who will open doors for me. I want a man who will wait for me to walk beside him, not someone who will expect me to hurry and catch up with him.

I want a man who will always think I'm beautiful ... and tell me so in ways that I can believe. At the very least, I need a man who will see me.

I want a man who will stroke my ego as much as I stroke his. I want a man who will stand beside me and support anything and everything I want to do - 100% support with no reservations, which I will always return.

I want a man who will stand up for me, and fight for me ... even though he knows I am perfectly capable of fighting my own fights. I want a man who will want to protect me and take care of me, even while he recognizes that I don't need to be protected.

I want a man who will be manly and macho, but not be afraid to put on an apron and help out around the house. At the very least, he needs to be able to pick up after himself without being constantly reminded or asked to do it!

I want a man who will pay attention when I'm holding a conversation with him, and not ignore me in favor of a book, the internet or the TV.

I want a man who will recognize my intelligence, in spite of the fact that I'm blonde.

I want a man who likes to cuddle ... even when (or maybe especially when) the cuddling isn't going to lead to sex. I want a man who'll want to walk arm-in-arm with me - or at least hold hands.

I want a man who can dance like Fred Astaire or Gene Kelly ... and make me look like Ginger Rodgers or Cyd Charisse at the same time. Actually, a man with a good sense of rhythm who likes to dance, regardless of how well, is enough.

I want a man who will share my interests in animals, books, movies and songs.

I want a man who will indulge the child in me, while standing beside me and depending on the adult in me.

I want a man who will remember the important dates, without having to be reminded. This includes anniversaries and birthdays ...

I want a man who will take care of me when I'm sick - even if it's just bringing me a glass of ginger ale, even though I'm still perfectly capable of walking into the kitchen to get it myself. I want a man who will allow me to lay in bed, or on the sofa, and just rest and get well while he takes care of dinner and the kids - even if it's just a nasty cold that I'm suffering from! I want to be babied a little, not be expected to carry on like an adult.

I want a man who will trust me implicity, and who will know that I wouldn't cheat on him - but I want him to be jealous whenever another man notices me. I want him to admit that just because I'm committed to him doesn't mean I won't look at, and appreciate, other men - but I don't want him to like it!

While we're on the subject of looks, let's be completely superficial for a moment. I'd like a man who is stronger than I am. I'd like a man who is physically fit -- not a jock, or someone who spends way too much time at the gym, but someone who has a bit of defined muscle and who has some stamina. I'm partial to blue-eyed blondes, but I like any coloring. I'm partial to long hair -- on some men. Some men just look better with short hair. Facial hair really depends on the face, but if you're going to have it, please keep it neat and clean! I like tall men ... 6 foot or better. All of that said ... while the appearance may make me look at you, it's the mind and the personality that will keep my attention, so the appearance really doesn't matter that much in the end.

Shall we continue with the superficiality for a moment? What about money? I will admit that I have champagne tastes. But I've learned that there are a lot of things that are more important than indulging my expensive tastes. In many ways, I'm a simple person too - I enjoy camping in a tent and cooking over a campfire. So money in a man really isn't that important. I'd like him not to be completely broke, or deeply in debt, but he doesn't have to be a Rockefeller either.

Ladies, please email me here and let me know what you think of my list, and tell me what you want.

Gentlemen, please email me here and let me know what you think of my list, and let me know if I'm completely off my rocker.

Now that I've said all that ... let me say that the man I've chosen may not meet all of these criteria, but he's still my choice of men. He's not very tall (5'7"), but he's darned handsome, with gorgeous blue eyes and great buns! He really does a good job of meeting most of my desires, most of the time. There are times when I completely despair of him, but there are other times ... well, those are none of your business!

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